Single Saved and Satisfied

I will start by thanking my dear friend Dr Onyeka Osaje, who never stops to remind me on how married I would have being if only she had a brother. Dr Onyi, I am honoured, you are amazing and I remain humbled by your kind words. I can’t forget my dear friend Evelyn (God rest her soul), who in her quirky manner gives a good cheer to the men that left and the man yet to come and while at it she remains happy.

While talking to a friend a while ago, she asked me how I wait, how I do it and why I am not bothered knowing that time is fast going? Well my honest reply was ‘I am not waiting perfectly’ lol! There are a lot of hard days and really sweet days as I learnt to put my hope in God rather than in a potential boyfriend or husband.

I may just have friends that don’t take ‘single life’ issues lightly, seeing that every phone call starts with a man and ends with a broken heart. Ladies can relate well to this. Single ladies are under the pressure of settling down (African mother’s thank you). I have being match made more than I can count, the process is always fun and I may never know…

My point is this, I learnt to find happiness in simple things rather than in a person, so I get satisfaction from my heart rather than random opinions of people. So on being single and satisfied,  I have engaged myself in a lot of activities some were a big drag, others were worth the dive. I enrolled for French classes using an app (duolingo), exercised more, read a lot of books, served in my local church, and pursued God through His word and in prayer (which really means he was pursuing me)! So I have options, yeah!!! That’s not so bad at all for me *tongues out*, which means I can use the ‘NO’ button when I like instead of saying ‘YES’ to every invitation.

So because I am occupied with God, I stopped waiting for a man and started living for God. The simple truth is this, learn to love yourself and learn to be by yourself. I don’t understand it when folks say they can’t be without a man, that’s crap! If you don’t know how to be by yourself, what are you doing with someone else? Learn to wait and while you are at it, have a good rest. For you may get little of that when married. The truth is, I will rather be all by myself in my dark room reading vampire dairies (and I hate that book) than with a man and wondering what the hell I am doing with him. I am so sorry I cannot live in dysfunction.

So to my friends who keep asking about my man; there is no man. I don’t care, I am happy, God owns my clock and he is moulding me to fit into a king, I am anticipating my queen experience. 

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~Ama